This post is completely and unapologetically inspired by my boyfriend. If you are dating a law student you probably hate this time of the semester just as much as I do-FINALS TIME. Finals time is so brutal, because your lover practically … Continue reading
Outgrowing certain people and habits are a necessary aspect of the maturing process. Leaving people in the past can be painful, but it is an essential step to becoming the best person that you can possibly be. Growing apart from someone is extremely similar to the life cycle of a plant. Hear me out on this one! When you plant a seed in a tiny pot you watch the plant grow so large that it will eventually need to be planted outside or in a larger pot. That plant does not mourn over the fact that it must sink its roots into an new environment. The plant rejoices in the fact that it now has space to grow and an opportunity to reach it’s full potential. If the plant stayed in the pot that was too small for it would die without knowing how large it could have gotten. Without ever reaching it’s full potential.
Not everyone is meant to be in your life for long periods of time. God will allow certain people to come into your life to teach you a few life lessons. Do not hold on to a situation that is killing or deterring your growth. Be grateful for every single person you meet because they all serve a purpose. Whether its to teach you, challenge you, or push you to greater heights. But do not be afraid to say goodbye.
It would be inappropriate of me to not apologize for the nearly two month hiatus I took from publishing to this blog. I have been terribly busy as a full-time student, part-time employee, 24-hour resident assistant, club member, friend, and … Continue reading
HAPPY BIRTHDAY REAL TALK! Thank you to all of my readers and subscribers. This year has been one of growth, constant change, and experimenting. Thank you so much for supporting me and trusting my advice. Having a platform to share my life with you all means so much to me. I have learned so much about journalism and myself in this past year.
I have written and re-written this introduction several times trying to choose the perfect words to craft the perfect blog post for you this Mother’s Day. I quickly came to the realization that my vocabulary is not vast enough to describe how much I love you or how blessed I am to call you my mother.
On February 18, 1994 at 6:14 pm your life was forever changed. 21 years later you are my home owning, pet parent, high school graduate, Drexel University alumni, Mercedes Benz driving, Versace glasses wearing mommy. Your life story is a testament to your determination, ambition, love, strength, faith, desire, humor and intelligence. The older I get the more I try to embody the strength of that 18 year old mother and high school student ready to take on the world.
You are the reason why I am the young woman that I am today. You taught me that hard work and determination will get me anywhere I want to go. You are always my guiding light. Whenever I have a question or just need someone to talk to you are always there to listen. You have taught me how to be a strong independent black woman. Even though it is so cliché I really don’t know where I would be without your love, dedication and compassion. Happy Mother’s Day!
The world is ours.
P.S. I told my friend that you want my children to call you Glammom and her reply was, “How are they going to be able to pronounce that? They are going to end up calling her Glum-Glum.” So yes I will allow my children to call you Glammom 🙂
Eyes Lips Face, also known as e.l.f. Cosmetics, is one of my favorite cosmetic lines. Not only are their products pigmented and long lasting they are super affordable. I recently purchased 1 moisturizing lipstick, 1 glitter gloss, 3 matte lipsticks, 1 mineral lip liner and 2 hypershine lip glosses all from their studio line for $21.50. What I also love about e.l.f. is the accuracy of their color swatches.
Below I provide a more in depth description of each lip product.
I absolutely love this gloss. I purchased the color dazzling diamond. I originally brought the gloss to layer over my my matte lipstick to provide a glittery effect, but I love wearing the gloss alone. It is a thick, but non-sticky, shiny and glittery lip gloss. The gloss is hydrating and long lasting. The only con about this gloss is that one half of my precision brush applicator is hard and the other side is soft. This product only cost $3!
This lipstick is enriched with Shea and Vitamins A, C, & E making it extremely moisturizing. It applies evenly and glides on lips smoothly. The color is very pigmented and last for hours. I purchased the color “Cheeky.” This product only cost $3.
This matte lipstick comes in a jumbo sized crayon with a twist up application. The colors are rich but will need to be reapplied after every drink or meal. I purchased the colors fuchsia, praline and rich red. The only negative comment I have for this product is that my praline matte lipstick broke after its first use. I made it work so I am not too upset, but you definitely get what you pay for. These lipsticks only cost $3 a piece.
Mineral Lip Liner
I love this lip liner because it has no parabens, no preservatives and no chemical dyes. I purchased the color rose. This lip liner blends very well with the rest of the lip sticks that I purchased. With a twist up application it does not require sharpening nor will the point break unexpectedly. This lip liner only cost $1.99
Hypershine Lip Gloss
I will never buy this product again. The colors are very pretty and sheer. I purchased these glosses to layer over my lipsticks. These lip glosses do not apply evenly and they are very very shiny. I thought I was in Little Mama’s “Lip Gloss,” video. These lips glosses only cost $1 a piece.
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Merriam-Webster defines the word disrespect as saying or doing something that shows a lack of respect for (someone or something). In other words, when one fails to show respect it is because he or she does not believe that the person he or she is coming in contact with is worthy of their respect.
Disrespect comes in various shapes, sizes, words, and actions. At times it can be difficult to recognize the fact that you are getting disrespected. I am going to fill you in on 7 phrases that men say to women that are actually very disrespectful.
1. When are you going to let me hit?/ I’m trying to take you down.
This is one of, if not the most disrespectful thing that a man could ever say to a woman. It is not okay to ask a woman how long it is going to take until she allows you to have sex with her. It is so degrading, tasteless, rude, and down right thirsty. It makes a man seem as if he cannot possibly take an interest in who she is as a person, because he cannot control his raging hormones and must know how soon they can have sex. I have had various men use this phrase with me via face to face and text message conversations. Because of my previous experiences with this phrase I am lead to believe that men don’t know that this phrase is disrespectful and that women respond to this statement in a positive manner. Ladies this phrase should not be tolerated. If a man asks you this question call him out on his disrespect.
2. Yo Ma! Yo Shawty!
Men this is no way to address a young lady! If you are on one side of the street and she is on the other do not yell at her to get her attention. There is no need to yell, be embarrassing, and act like a fool. This method rarely works, because the girl is so embarrassed by your actions. Just a little FYI, women don’t like being yelled at by strangers. Try a different approach like walking up to her and calmly asking her name.
3. You’re cute for a…
This statement is what people like to call a backhanded compliment. A backhanded compliment is a statement that is a combination of an insult and praise. No one likes to get insulted. So men if you find yourself thinking, “She’s cute for a…” stop yourself right there and don’t allow that thought to leave your head.
4. Do you like girls?
Men just please stop asking this question. Your sexual fantasy of two women in your bed while you watch is never going to come true. SO STOP ASKING THIS QUESTION. Would you believe me if I told you that if the girl you are talking to is gay or bisexual she will let you know prior to any type of sexual activity? BELIEVE IT! That will give you two plenty of time to pick out a girl to invite into your bedroom. Again, STOP ASKING THIS QUESTION.
5. I like your hair better when…
Guess what? It’s not your hair and she will style her hair however she wishes. This statement is disrespectful, because you are forcing her to believe that you find her more beautiful when her hair is in a certain style. She should feel beautiful whenever she is around you not only when her hair is in your favorite hairstyle.
6. When you going to send me some pictures?
I am almost 100% sure that every young lady between the ages of 14-26 has been asked this question before. Men do not ask this question, because it is an automatic turnoff. Again you make yourself seem as though you have no control of your raging hormones and that you only have a physical attraction to the girl. A girl wants to be with a guy who likes her for who she is, not just for what she looks like or what he thinks she can do in the bedroom. Guys I am going to give you a tip, if you really want to see pictures of a girl just ask for her Instagram handle. The only bad thing about the tip I just gave you is girls know what a man is doing when he only asks for her Instagram handle. He wants to see some pictures and doesn’t want you to be exposed to whatever is on his Facebook or Twitter.
7. What does your man have to do with me?
I have had a boy tell me that my boyfriend had nothing to do with the relationship that he was seeking to begin with me. Men if she is telling you that she has a boyfriend it is because she wants nothing to do with you. It is irrational to get upset or try to pursue a honest female who is in a committed relationship. When making this statement you make your lack of morals obvious. You come off as dishonest, lonely, lame and need I say disrespectful.