This post is completely and unapologetically inspired by my boyfriend. If you are dating a law student you probably hate this time of the semester just as much as I do-FINALS TIME. Finals time is so brutal, because your lover practically … Continue reading
HAPPY BIRTHDAY REAL TALK! Thank you to all of my readers and subscribers. This year has been one of growth, constant change, and experimenting. Thank you so much for supporting me and trusting my advice. Having a platform to share my life with you all means so much to me. I have learned so much about journalism and myself in this past year.
How are you? I hope this letter finds you well. People ask me about you frequently. I tell them that you are doing fine and that you are the proud owner of a beautiful blue BMW. Even though we don’t talk your instagram and twitter tell me everything that I wish to know. I would be lying if I said I missed you, because I don’t. I don’t even yearn to have that one last conversation for “closure.”
I can say with confidence that I never thought I would see the day that we grew apart. Remember those days where when people saw you they saw me and we were never more than 50 feet away from each other? If the sentence began with Ariana it ended with you and vice versa? The days we had to defend our friendship to all of Renaissance Academy because of course we were fucking since there is no way in hell a boy and a girl can be just friends. Or how about when your girlfriends would get jealous over our friendship because they knew deep down inside you would always choose me over them? It’s funny, because I really liked some of them. Or when other girls used to call you bestie? Hahaha I don’t even want to get into that because we both knew what it was. Or how about when I cried because people said I was ugly? You were there for me. Or what about those late night conversations when we would discuss our future? Who knew I would end up in New York and you, Virginia? Or how about when I got my first boyfriend and I couldn’t wait to hear your opinion?
I thought this shit would never end. Besties for life we used to say again and again. August 28,2008. What you thought I would forget? You changed my life forever and I still consider you my friend. I’m tearing up while I write so I guess I miss you just a little bit. You taught me the meaning of friendship, compassion, forgiveness, and loyalty.
Time changes things sometimes for the worst and for the better. I’m still a Kanye fan and his music can’t get any better! I haven’t changed too much but you should be able to tell that if you are reading this letter. Even though we don’t talk just know I’m never far. So Happy Birthday, Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year because we both always forget to call. I’m sorry for publishing this letter online. Just let me know if you like me to take it down. One of my New Year’s resolutions is to get more personal with my readers so they can truly get a sense of who I am. Keep working hard. Trust the timing of your life. The world is yours.
P.S. Your girlfriend is beyond gorgeous!
Do you believe in this theory?
Be e ve ry where.
B e p a t i e n t.
“First thing’s first, I’m the realest.”– Igloo Australia (Iggy Azalea)
I simply couldn’t resist from using one of Igloo Australia’s lyrics as an opening line. It was just too appropriate, but please know that I am well aware of the reasons why many do not support her rap career.
To the Realest,
Whether you are a new subscriber and/or follower or have been rocking with me since 2013, thank you so much for reading. It means the world to me that you take the time to read my words as I am perfecting my craft.
Have you ever wanted to sit and have a conversation with someone, but felt like you had no one to turn to? Ever want to vent about your whole life to a stranger, then get up and walk away?
If you answered yes to the two questions listed above, then my advice blog is for you. This year I promise to share more of my personal life with you all. My goal is for all adolescent and young adults to gain genuine advice and knowledge that are applicable to their personal lives. How am I going to do that if I do not keep you all well informed of my trails, triumphs, and thoughts? I cannot wait for you all to read some of my new content. Make use of my contact page! Let me know what you like and don’t like. I’m always open for suggestions, improvements, and constructive criticism.
I am a 20-year-old senior in college. I am a journalism major. Hablo un poco de español. I am the president of an organization at my University. I love Kanye Omari West. I am the product of a single parent household. I use to think no else shared my life experiences. My story is yours. Let’s talk the real talk.
It is no small feat to survive another 365 days. People are murdered, hit by cars, commit suicide, slip and fall, die expectantly or of natural causes.I lived for two decades, which means I have done some maturing and have some pieces advice I would like to share with you.
Here they are:
1. Document Your Life
There is no way that you are going to remember everything that occurs in your life, so write it down! Try to set a goal of writing in a journal or diary at least once a week or daily. Even if you just take a few seconds to jot down a few thoughts you will reap great benefits. A journal or diary allows you to reflect on where you’ve been and how far you’ve come. Especially when you are able to read about what you did and how you felt a year ago. The Huffington Post released an article that outlines 26 reasons why you should keep a journal.
2. Set Goals For Yourself
Setting goals in life is more than extremely important. Time stops for no one and it moves quickly. You do not want your life to pass you by, so take sometime to think about what you want to accomplish within the next year. What is it that you want to do? I like to set and update my goals in three-month intervals. For example one of my goals is to find an internship for the summer. Make a list of goals, give yourself a reasonable amount of time to complete each goal, and start working hard. Forbes has a great article on goal setting.
3. Love Yourself
This is something that people tend to struggle with, but once you begin genuinely loving who you are your entire life will change. You will feel more confident, you’ll be happier; you’ll begin interacting with people differently, and you will have a stronger command over your life. It begins with your internal dialogue. Do you talk to yourself in a loving manner? Or are you always saying negative things to yourself? Whenever you think, why me? Ask yourself, why not me? Everyone who is successful in life did not get where they are today, because they thought they couldn’t do it. Show your authentic self to the world without fear and do what makes you smile. Love is a verb as well, so you have to treat your body like you love it. This means no drinking and smoking every chance you get, because you are killing your body from the inside out. Be you and love whoever that is.
4. Don’t Take Life Too Seriously
I’m not saying scream YOLO and throw everything to the wayside. I am telling you to have fun, because everyone dies in the end! The last thing you want to do is be in your 60s and regret things you didn’t do in your 20s.
In youth we learn; in age we understand – Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach